The Attributes Required To Master Success
The strategies are the easy bit!
But the difference that makes the difference is your structure!
If you are living in a little goldfish bowl then you’re just not going to grow that big!
You’re not going to swim in the ocean of wealth and success until you can jump out of the bowl and expand your structure!
Albert Einstein talked about the boundary conditions of our thinking.
Basically, what he was saying is that we are not limited by life – what is possible or impossible is not set by the universe!
But is set by our own individual perception.
We are limited by the boundaries we create!
What we believe is possible becomes the walls of the box we live inside.
That box is your structure and most people rarely venture outside unless they make a concerted effort to do so!
Do you have a ‘scumbag voice’?
If you don’t know, I’ll save you some time – you do!
We all have two voices – one that is positive and encouraging and the other is what I call the ‘scumbag voice’.
This is the little voice that eats away at your self-confidence and it is your inner critic.
It’s the one that sniggers when you tell yourself your going to be filthy stinking rich!
It’s the one that says, “Not you, scumbag! Everyone else will be rich except you!”
Don’t be too concerned about this voice.
Everyone has one.
It’s just a matter of learning how to turn the volume down or preferably hit the mute button!
Without going into the technicalities of how this voice is developed, suffice to say it is the product of learning and most adults have this voice.
If you don’t want your children to suffer from it, make a point of encouraging them more than criticizing them!
Point out the good attributes in people and make a fuss of their successes rather than picking on their faults.
Encourage people to learn from their mistakes and separate the mistake or outcome from them as a human being!
Just because someone fails an exam doesn’t make them a failure.
As we learn we fail!
That’s hoe we learn and yet as an adult failure is no longer acceptable so we beat ourselves up for not getting it right and the ‘scumbag voice’ has a field day!
Newsflash:
If You Want To Be Filthy Stinking Rich And Successful, YOU Better get Used to Failing!!
I think my favorite ‘against all odds’ story is that of Walt Disney, who was turned down by 321 banks before someone finally said yes to his dream – Disneyland!
Remember your scumbag voice only has the power to limit your dreams and steal your confidence if you let it!
Don’t listen!
That’s the key! Don’t listen!
Most people think that’s too simple bit it is usually the simple things in life that make the biggest difference!
I definitely agree with the positive reinforcement theory! It’s easy to encourage others and so much harder to be nice to ourselves
Maybe we need a “be nice to yourself” week…
Duane,
Good info to live by. There is no such thing as failure only new ways to learn and grow. Thanks for the Success Tips Today
Lynn Lane
Success Strategies For Life
Perhaps with enough positive input, we can program in a “success” voice that can drown out and/or shut up our scumbag voice.
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Duane,
Another good one from you!
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Encourage people to learn from their mistakes and separate the mistake or outcome from them as a human being!
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Spot on! Separate the person him/herself from his behaviour. It’s much less difficult to change one’s behaviour than to change that person.
John Ho
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Yeah. The strategies are the easy bit!
I love your writing Duane. Most others would tell people to stop the scumbag voice. That’s not going to happen anytime soon. Just don’t pay it any attention!
Cool stuff dude. Might be heading to NZ for a couple of months soon. Negotiating a consulting contract with a car finance company out there at the moment. Quite fancy some skiing!
I just laugh at the scumbag voice these days. I like the part about the fish bowl…it is so true. I also agree about uplifting people rather than pointing out their failures.
Anthony
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